A couple weeks back, a few local bloggers and I started a fun and intimate series (last seen here) called Blogger Confessions. Through Blogger Confessions we hope to capture the multifaceted lives that many bloggers live in, but sometimes is not highlighted in our blogs. This month’s topic: relationships.
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When it comes to relationships I honestly feel like I have a PhD. Of course, I am no expert but over the years (and countless advice from the women in my life) I have definitely learned what has and hasn’t worked for me. That is why when I recently read Kyle Richards’ book, Life Is Not A Reality Show (yes, it’s actually possible to like a reality star’s book as a guilty pleasure), I immediately connected to her Do’s and Don’t of relationships. Since I am a big fan of her book and already live by almost all her relationship standards, I thought it would be fun to share with you a few of her “ruthlessly honest” questions* to ask yourself when dating:
- What is his relationship like with his mother? (We’re looking for respect and kindness here – close but not too close).
- Does he obviously check out other women while he is with you? (Not only is this sleazy and disrespectful; it betrays a certain shallowness that is totally unappealing. Some people may disagree – oh well).
- What are his friends like? (Let’s hope they’re wonderful, sweet, honest men who are good to the women in their lives).
- How does he get along with his family?
- How does he treat animals? (A guy that usually has a pet, you can assume he has at least some capacity for emotion and sensitivity).
I hope these questions make you realize (to a certain degree) what kind of man/relationship you deserve and remember…never settle. The best advice my mom ever gave me was “it’s better to be alone, than to be with the wrong person”.
Check out what other DC bloggers are confessing to today at Julip Made, Web Haute Jas, The You Finder, and Apollinas.
*Taken from Kyle Richards’ book, Life is Not a Realty Show
Great questions, specially numbers 3 and 5. It’s so important that his friends are nice and respectful to you, after all, if they are not very nice people, it makes you wonder what kind of a guy would hang out with these men. And the pet question, so true, not only can it tell you about the guy’s sensitivity but also about responsibility. Fabulous post.
I totally agree Rosa. Who a guy’s friends are is an exact indication of the type of person he is too. Thanks for your positive feedback:)
Love it Sara! I think I have a few men that fit the bill. :)
haha. thanks kat:) can’t wait to meet them:)